In our daily lives as moms/business owners/wives/friends/sisters, we have a lot of people depending on us. Every day I’m giving to someone. And I love it. I thrive on being needed by others. It makes me who I am, and most of the time I feel that I do a really good job.
That being said, I only have so much of me to give. And when my tank starts to run low, I can feel it. I’m short with my daughters. I’m abrupt with my husband. I don’t pick up the phone when I see a friend calling. I have a hard time focusing on work and finding motivation. And I crave sleep.
It is remarkably easy to forget about our own needs and personal well-being throughout the year. The daily schedule of being a parent/spouse/business owner/co-worker/sister/friend can be overwhelming, to say the least. Some weeks I feel in control and things flow smoothly, and other weeks I’m just thrilled I survived and made it till Friday! My girlfriend once described it as “hanging onto life by the coat tails” and I feel that perfectly sums it up.
Then you add on the merry chaos of the holidays and WHAM! Life becomes a cycle of never-ending to-do lists. Be a good parent. Check. Be a good wife. Check. Focus on Indie Goat. Check. Order and send out a zillion holiday cards. Check. Find the best gifts for every single member of our families. Check. Check. Check. Check. Check. All of a sudden you find yourself looking forward to Dec.26th and a chance to breathe again.
This is why remembering to take care of ourselves and recharge during this time of year is especially important. We use so much energy taking care of others’ needs, that eventually we run out of juice. It’s bound to happen. And to prevent the inevitable epic meltdown, we need to take a breather and focus on us. On me. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.
Repeat after me: IT’S NOT SELFISH. IT’S NECESSARY.
In order to be the best at what you do, you need to take time to refuel. Recharge. We need to purge the low, muddy energy in our tank, and refuel with new clean, pure energy. If we don’t, what happens? Not only do we suffer in the short term, but we also cause long-term damage. Physically, emotionally, mentally we need to allow ourselves to periodically stop focusing externally and focus inward. And we need to do it without GUILT.
I know what you’re thinking right now…"But I don’t have time to focus on me. I have a million things to do.” I know how you feel. I’ve said that to myself many times.
I’m here to tell you that you do. Self-care doesn’t require spending days or weeks away. It doesn’t even require spending money.
I want you to do me a favor and give to yourself this holiday season. Think about the things that feed your soul and make a list. Friendships, the quiet solitude in nature, a brisk morning run, time spent alone with your spouse, a glass of wine and a good book. Things that make you feel relaxed and happy and at peace. And then schedule a time to enjoy them. Not next month or next year, but now. Pick at least one thing and schedule it for this week. Right now. Write it down right now.
Good. Glad we had that chat :)
I would love to hear what feeds your soul in the comments below…I’m always looking for new ways to recharge!
I wish you a happy and healthy holiday season full of giving to yourself and to others-
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